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Fear of Public Speaking

I remember my first presentation after I started work. I was just in my twenties, graduated from college, started a career, and I was very excited to speak in front of a public for the first time. I was even a little embarrassed. I never forget the shaking of my hands. It was shaking so much that I also had trouble keeping my presentation notes. This excitement was not only in my hands, and I was sweating; I could not control my voice. I never wanted to stop talking because I was afraid that if I did, I wouldn't continue. The most important thing for a presentation to be useful is the safe posture, a full tone of voice during the conversation, and the necessary emphasis in the sentences. I could not make a comfortable and sincere smile. However, that day, I was not going to quit the first presentation I made in that meeting room, I continued to make the presentation. The people I gave the presentation kept on listening, even though they realized that I was hectic, nervous and at the same time, I wanted to finish the display as soon as possible. As the presentation progressed, I saw that people got curious and even laughed during my presentation as my anxiety decreased and I got used to it. As the presentation went, I relaxed, and I remember as if I had released that burden on my back and spoke, leaving my notes on the table. Even with this confidence, I felt that I was focusing and opening up the people's faces. The people all applauded me when I finished my speech. The big applause was for my passion for presenting despite my evident excitement.

After that first presentation, I realized that this tension was simply due to public speaking, and it wouldn't last forever in this tension. In such cases, our pressure reaches its peak and then decreases. Tensions are temporary, just as the waves in the sea rise and fall. The best way to deal with them is to accept the pressure and then continue to swim over the waves thinking that tension is like waves in the sea. Only in this way can we overcome issues we fear or feel nervous about.

This first presentation taught me that, as a rule, people want you to be successful in listening to you. They do their best, especially if you're speaking in public. They also want to enjoy this conversation. After my first presentation, I learned to take advantage of this mutual goodwill, which has encouraged me to speak in public. I have always trusted the community I talk to, and they are also to me. I felt this trust inside me, and I reflected this trust in every moment of my life. It turned into confidence in myself.

Finally, most importantly, ten years ago, I realized that fear could not stop me from continuing. Fear is just a FEEL, and if there is no fatal situation, it is an excellent idea to accept that fear and continue. Anxiety is a liar. It stops you from preventing you from shining and growing. But you don't have to believe what your fear tells you. When I was giving that presentation ten years ago, my anxiety told me that I was in danger to fight. My body was also shocked by the fear of this danger. But I continued and clung to the antidote to fear. The love and goodwill that was in the room at the time. I moved on in harmony with love and friendship. The effect of fear diminished as I continued. After a while, that fear disappeared. I continued my presentation to support the audience's goodwill in that room, which boosted my desire to succeed. The fear had slowly faded.

Today, I can speak quite comfortably in the community, and I enjoy it. Sometimes I still feel nervous, but I know these tensions are temporary now. I even learned to turn my fears into advantages over time. As a self-confidence coach, I aimed to teach people to accept and manage their concerns in my own business. I use this purpose for my customers who do not feel comfortable speaking in front of the public. I love to watch the sense of confidence they

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